This is so relatable! As I continue to grow and evolve, my inner circle does too. It's a natural transition. I felt like I read my own thoughts reading this. I love the love you put into it. Friendship breakups don't have to be big, angry explosions.
I went through a really painful friend breakup a few years ago in which I lost not just a friend but really the whole community I had spent nearly a decade pouring into. This has been hard, because as an extreme introvert they were where I had focused all my energies so as a transplant to the area I don't have a web of friends. But reading this gives me some perspective. I HAD moved on, growing in my passions for issues of justice and equality. I wanted everyone to come along with me and...well, they weren't there yet and we can't force growth in others. I hope that eventually it will stop hurting. I hope that eventually I'll find 'my people.' And I hope that I remember this letter the next time and hold those friendships a little more loosely.
I promise you, you have precious friendships awaiting for you, the ones that want to be in community with you through and through! Friendship breakup are hard and painful, but some are necessary for you to keep growing and flourish how you should 🥹♥️
Im just going to take this as a synchronicity from the universe because I don't think I can resonate with something more nor could I ever put my words into cohesion or comprehension like this, love this and thank you!!!
Hi thank you for sharing this piece. It resonates with me as I deeply meditate on the type of friendships I desire in my life and come to the stark realization that I am ultimately seeking relationships with other unicorns and women who are walking in truth and power the way i am. This is a tall order. for now I do not have any intimate friendships at all; I am actually in the process of evaluating everyone who I offer access to me including acquaintances. I spend a lot of time alone and working on myself. 💜
Cannot recommend assessing the type of relationships you want to have in your life! This is such an important aspect of living, and accept that when some friendships don’t succeed as you wished for, it doesn’t mean it is a fail, just not fitting for you at the time! 🥰
The hardest part is to accept that some friendships aren’t meant to last and it’s not the end of the world, the moment we’re ok with it, it can only makes us feel better 🥰
As someone who just went through a very painful, one-sided friendship break up just a week ago, I needed to hear this. Still hurts though, ofc. Thanks, Ruth!
thank you for reading and if this piece resonated with you, I am glad! Friendship breakups are not fun, wishing you only love moving forward, new friendships will come and fulfil you ❤
Wow - I want to post this all over all of my social media platforms LOL. When I moved to Dominican Republic and had my daughter I went through sooooo many friendship breakups. This was beautiful and affirming to read.
🥹😭 as someone who went through heart wrenching friendship breakups last year, I heavily relate to being fearful of letting go but ultimately deciding it’s the best thing to do. I hope you find tranquility in your decision 🫶🏾
I did, ultimately writing this piece is me accepting that this was the decision to make! I am now rejoicing on focusing the friendships I am keeping and the new ones I will nurture 🥹
I’ve struggled with friendships ending for a while now and seeing the title of this post is affirming (plus reading this made me feel better about ending a friendship last year with someone whose values didn’t align with mine).
I am so glad that this piece made you feel OK with your decisions! Friendship breakups can be as painful as romantic ones, even more depending on the level of friendship you had with the people involved, and it is never fun to suddenly end something you spent years to build. But sometimes, it is necessary to do end them so you can close the chapter peacefully and on your terms <3
This is so relatable! As I continue to grow and evolve, my inner circle does too. It's a natural transition. I felt like I read my own thoughts reading this. I love the love you put into it. Friendship breakups don't have to be big, angry explosions.
I went through a really painful friend breakup a few years ago in which I lost not just a friend but really the whole community I had spent nearly a decade pouring into. This has been hard, because as an extreme introvert they were where I had focused all my energies so as a transplant to the area I don't have a web of friends. But reading this gives me some perspective. I HAD moved on, growing in my passions for issues of justice and equality. I wanted everyone to come along with me and...well, they weren't there yet and we can't force growth in others. I hope that eventually it will stop hurting. I hope that eventually I'll find 'my people.' And I hope that I remember this letter the next time and hold those friendships a little more loosely.
I promise you, you have precious friendships awaiting for you, the ones that want to be in community with you through and through! Friendship breakup are hard and painful, but some are necessary for you to keep growing and flourish how you should 🥹♥️
Im just going to take this as a synchronicity from the universe because I don't think I can resonate with something more nor could I ever put my words into cohesion or comprehension like this, love this and thank you!!!
Hi thank you for sharing this piece. It resonates with me as I deeply meditate on the type of friendships I desire in my life and come to the stark realization that I am ultimately seeking relationships with other unicorns and women who are walking in truth and power the way i am. This is a tall order. for now I do not have any intimate friendships at all; I am actually in the process of evaluating everyone who I offer access to me including acquaintances. I spend a lot of time alone and working on myself. 💜
Cannot recommend assessing the type of relationships you want to have in your life! This is such an important aspect of living, and accept that when some friendships don’t succeed as you wished for, it doesn’t mean it is a fail, just not fitting for you at the time! 🥰
Save this one immediately! I know this is going to be good! Can’t wait to get a chance to read it!
I feel the same way with a lot of friends. We're cool but the friendship has slowly fizzled away. I'm ok with that and no hard feelings.
The hardest part is to accept that some friendships aren’t meant to last and it’s not the end of the world, the moment we’re ok with it, it can only makes us feel better 🥰
As someone who just went through a very painful, one-sided friendship break up just a week ago, I needed to hear this. Still hurts though, ofc. Thanks, Ruth!
thank you for reading and if this piece resonated with you, I am glad! Friendship breakups are not fun, wishing you only love moving forward, new friendships will come and fulfil you ❤
Wow - I want to post this all over all of my social media platforms LOL. When I moved to Dominican Republic and had my daughter I went through sooooo many friendship breakups. This was beautiful and affirming to read.
Gabriela, thank youuu!! 🥹🥹🥹
🥹😭 as someone who went through heart wrenching friendship breakups last year, I heavily relate to being fearful of letting go but ultimately deciding it’s the best thing to do. I hope you find tranquility in your decision 🫶🏾
I did, ultimately writing this piece is me accepting that this was the decision to make! I am now rejoicing on focusing the friendships I am keeping and the new ones I will nurture 🥹
I’ve struggled with friendships ending for a while now and seeing the title of this post is affirming (plus reading this made me feel better about ending a friendship last year with someone whose values didn’t align with mine).
I am so glad that this piece made you feel OK with your decisions! Friendship breakups can be as painful as romantic ones, even more depending on the level of friendship you had with the people involved, and it is never fun to suddenly end something you spent years to build. But sometimes, it is necessary to do end them so you can close the chapter peacefully and on your terms <3